Debrief

Consider what helped and what made the interaction more difficult. In particular, discuss how the therapist balanced validation with reality-testing, helped Helen move from accusation towards communication of softer emotions, and supported Mark in acknowledging the impact of his past behaviour while remaining responsive in the present. Consider how the therapist helped Helen identify what she needed from Mark alongside the strategies she could use to manage her own distress.

Also consider what the therapist deliberately did not do. The purpose of this intervention is not to establish whether Mark will ever be trustworthy, settle the future of the marriage, or eliminate Helen’s flashbacks. The immediate task is to help the couple respond differently when a reminder of the betrayal enters the present.